Men are often compared to a microwave during sex – they’re ready to go instantly. Women on the other hand are like a crockpot – they need more time to heat up.
This brings us to our first point tip.
1. Don’t Rush Things
Remember, your partner is a crockpot.
So, try to set the mood all day long if you want to have intimacy later that night. You can:
- Send her seductive and flirty text messages
- Compliment her on her new dress
- Wash the dishes so she has time to do yoga
- Have a glass of wine on the couch
Create that relaxed, sexy energy that she desires.
If your partner isn’t the mood for intimacy, you can still connect with her physically in other ways:
- Offer to draw her a bubble bath
- Give her a massage
- Snuggle with her on the couch and watch a movie
- Find ways to engage with her physically like holding her hand or stroking her hair
This will help her to feel bonded and relaxed and could eventually lead to more desire down the road.
2. Set the Scene
Women love the right atmosphere to get them turned on. That includes candles she loves, soft lighting, and a little romantic music.
All of these elements in your home put together can trigger feelings of sexual desire.
When you set the scene for her, it also shows that you care about her feeling comfortable and desired.
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3. Engage in Eye Contact
Of course, when you are engaged in foreplay you’re going to be taking in the sight of her gorgeous body. Don’t forget to look her directly in the face with lots of eye contact.
That’s a big turn on for many women who like that direct connection. This simple act can make her feel worshipped and desired.
4. Tell Her How Sexy She Is
Don’t be shy about telling her how beautiful and sexy she is.
This can give her more confidence in the bedroom which will allow her to enjoy the sexual moments you are sharing more.
You can also use this time to talk erotically to her. Tell her all the things you want to do to her, and what you want her to do to you.
5. Utilize Foreplay
Foreplay is a majorly important part of sex.
A woman’s body needs time to respond to touch and friction. If you feel like you as a man are getting aroused too fast with the potential to climax prematurely, it’s probably a good time to try to delay ejaculation by using Promescent Delay Spray.
It’s a patented, doctor-created spray that can take your bedroom play to the next level.
And don’t worry, if you have this issue you aren’t alone. The Mayo Clinic estimates that 1 out of 3 men experience this problem at some point during their life.
6. Find All of Her Erogenous Zones
Erogenous zones are the extra-sensitive parts of the body that will respond to sexual pleasure.
So here’s the deal, it’s not all about her vulva (the outer part of the female vagina) and clitoris (which is located inside the labia majora right near the top of her labia minora, or inner labia).
You need to focus attention on other areas of her body too.
Those erogenous areas include her:
- Ears
- The nape of her neck
- Inner wrist
- Fingertips
- Backside
- Scalp
- Armpits
- Lower back
- Stomach
7. Ask Her What She Likes
Being a good listener is also a turn on for women.
Ask her what she likes and truly listen to her responses. It can definitely give you a better indication of what she’s into.
Pick her brain a little bit even before you start anything. Ask her what her fantasies are. She’s going to want you to tell her what yours are as well.
Sex talk even before the act is a HUGE turn on.
Talking about sex is certainly a way to get each other in the mood.
8. Pay Attention to Her Cues
Her body is naturally going to tell you that you’re doing something right.
Look for cues or signs of female arousal like her:
- Pupils dilating
- Her back arching
- Nipples getting hard
- Facial flushing
- Her natural lubrication revving up
These are all sure-fire signs that you’re making her desire and want to have sex with you.
9. Display Confidence
Confidence is a major turn-on.
If you emanate confident and assured energy, it’s going to help your partner feel desired, and spark sexual confidence in her as well.
So be bold. Be vulnerable. Be your best self.
Strut your stuff, and know that confidence goes a long way to being good at sexual fun in the bedroom.
10. Be Patient
Most women don’t achieve orgasm as fast as men do. That’s okay. Be patient with her.
Let her take her time and don’t rush through sexual pleasure.
Some women can start to feel self-conscious if they aren’t having an orgasm fast enough.
By taking your time with her, letting her know that you’re enjoying every moment of the experience, it will allow her to relax.
When you put this into consideration, it will help her have a better climax when she’s ready.
11. Give Oral Pleasure, Generously
Don’t be shy with orally pleasuring her. This is sometimes the best way to get a woman to achieve an orgasm during sex.
Not all women have an orgasm with intercourse alone.
In fact, according to a study by the Kinsey Institute, a well-known research group that explores sexual and reproduction topics, women are more likely to have an orgasm when “engaged in a variety of sexual acts, including oral sex.”
Whereas, men can likely achieve orgasm from intercourse alone.
Learn some fun oral techniques, use your hands as well as your mouth, and don’t forget to vary your pressure.
You’ll be able to feel with your fingers if she’s opening up to you and enjoying your technique. If this is an area where you don’t feel super confident, it’s time to improve your skills.
Plus, it doesn’t hurt to tell her how much you love doing it.
Some women are afraid their men aren’t enjoying oral sex so it tampers down their enjoyment and relaxation during the act.
Showing your partner that you truly love going down on her will allow her to relish it more.
12. Touch Her All Over
You may feel going to town on her clitoris is the sure-fire way to get her turned on, and it’s one of the best parts, but don’t neglect the rest of her body.
Women loved to be touched all over. Stroke her thighs, rub her back, and squeeze her behind.
Using a combination of all kinds of touching will truly get her hot and heavy into the moment to drive her wild with pleasure.
