Delivering the Goods

At first, I was pretty average at sex. I ran into fairly normal guy problems like:

Girls weren’t climaxing with me, except rarely (and weakly)
I was getting tired fairly easily (even though I worked out)
The sex was boring enough that women would sometimes start talking to me during it

… but then one day I needed to pull off a miracle.

I’d managed to pull off a remarkable turnaround with a gorgeous girl I’d wanted to make my girlfriend, who’d earlier decided she wanted nothing to do with me, and I’d managed to sleep with her while on a tour overseas with a bunch of other people.

But she still disliked me and thought I was no good (I was going a little too far with the bad boy image then and hadn’t learned how to balance it right), and told me there was zero chance of us having a relationship or seeing each other after we got back from the trip.

I shrugged this off, trying to seem nonchalant, because if I knew if I chased her I was done for sure. But I knew I needed to give her a reason to keep seeing me after our return if I wanted her as a girlfriend – and the only thing I could think that could possibly do it was sex.

Except, I was pretty ordinary at sex.

So, on the last night of the trip, with her turned on and lustily grasping at me as we rode around town in a taxicab, I finally got her back to the hotel, and decided to try something new. I’d come up with an idea that would hopefully let me last longer without getting tired, maintain better rhythm, and give her both clitoral and vaginal stimulation at the same time.

I tried it out on her, and 10 minutes into sex, she achieved climax – hard. I couldn’t believe it… I started grinning. And kept going.

Then she came again.

Then again.

Then again.

After the fourth orgasm – all right in a row – she breathlessly said, “I think you are the best.”

Like a dork, I asked, “The best ever?” She didn’t answer… she just came hard again.

And then again.

After the seventh orgasm – by this point, she was screaming so hard I literally thought she was going to start crying, and I was afraid the hotel staff would break down the door thinking her limbs were being sawn off – she yelled, “I don’t think I can LEAVE you!” and I knew I’d done it.

She came two more times, and then I finished.

We’d been having sex for only 15 or 20 minutes.

We ended up dating for 2½ years after that.

How to Make a Girl Orgasm, Hard and Fast

I don’t know if there’s a common name for this sex position; in the years I’ve shared it with close friends, I’ve had one person show me something that described the same position. I forget what it was called there.

I’ve never seen it anywhere else.

Well nigh everyone I’ve asked to try it out has reported having his girls orgasm off of it, usually on the first try. In fact, the first friend of mine who tried it out, I was hanging out in the other bedroom in his house when he did – he didn’t know I was there – and I listened to him make a girl scream at the top of her lungs for five minutes.

Here’s how this differs from an ordinary missionary position:

Forearm and elbow support. Ordinary missionary position entails a man raised up above the woman’s body, supported by his hands and wrists. For obvious reasons, this is a pretty tiring position – it takes a lot of work to hold yourself up that much! When you’re supporting yourself with your forearms and elbows instead though, you tire out much more slowly – and can last far longer. This also allows you to maintain much more control over your bodily motions, making it significantly easier to keep a steady thrusting rhythm.
Full body contact. Unlike ordinary missionary, where you’re holding yourself above the girl, in adapted missionary your body is on top of hers, creating a much more intimate experience, and prompting the release of more pleasure and bonding chemicals in her brain, increasing her enjoyment.
Altered thrust angle. The one “complaint” I’ve had from friends who’ve tried this position out is that they enjoyed the sex somewhat less. That’s because this position gives you a very “clean” angle of entry into a woman’s vagina – you’re going right in, with little in the way, which means less pressure on your penis shaft, and a bit less pleasure for you. On the other hand, it allows for deeper penetration, which means you more easily reach the back wall of her vagina with the end of your penis – and vaginal back wall stimulation is how you trigger the most powerful vaginal orgasms.
Pelvic rubbing and clitoral stimulation. Because of the position your body is in, your pelvis slides back and forth against hers – stimulating her clitoris in the process. Rather than an up and down motion, like you’d have with a standard missionary position, where her clitoris gets virtually no stimulation, in adapted missionary this back and forth rubs her clitoris constantly.
Shoulder grip for added oomph. As you get closer to orgasm, you’ll want to thrust into her harder while maintaining the same rhythm, to hit the back wall of her vagina harder and to rub her clitoris harder. Because your hands are wrapped around her shoulders from behind and underneath, you’re able to not just thrust forward, but pull her downward as well. This roughly doubles the strength you can thrust with, and is pretty exciting for her too. You can feel the difference just by letting go of her shoulders and thrusting, then grasping them and thrusting. Big difference in power.

Orgasms happen for me with this position with most girls within 8 to 10 minutes, maximum – often faster, when they’re excited.

The neat thing about this position is that it takes care of everything for you, short of rhythm. Rhythm ends up being the only thing you need to concentrate on – everything else is automatic.

If you’re starting off with standard white guy rhythm (that is to say, NO rhythm) like I was when I first began using this position, expect four to six months of sex several times a week while concentrating on rhythm to get your rhythm down tight. You’ll struggle a bit at first, and she likely won’t climax every time, but once you’ve got it down, you’ll know how to make a girl orgasm like no one else she’s ever met… or ever will meet.

Let’s say you’ve got adapted missionary down, and now you want to find more ways to make your girl climax hard and fast. What else is there out there?

In this section, I want to show you a couple of other sex positions that you may or may not have seen before, talk about how to make a girl orgasm with them, and review a few more tips that are generally going to make you better at sex and more adept at giving a fulfilling sexual experience to girls.

More Sex Tips to Make a Girl Orgasm Loads

Here, more general sex tips that will make generating quick, powerful multiple orgasms in women much more of a snap than it was before you started using them:

Syncing up sensation. One of the secrets of sex I realized sometime back was that when you do what feels physically best for your penis during sex, it tends to get the most physically pleasurable reaction out of your partner. Thrust one way, and she’ll like it; thrust another way that feels better for you, and she’ll love it. Focus on maximizing your own sensation, and you maximize hers, too.
Dirty talk on the high points. I’m not much of a talker during sex usually (although I did mention one use for this when a girl’s been giving you trouble in the “Am I still…?” thread on the discussion boards), but one time I do enjoy using it is in amplifying a girl’s pleasure and helping her achieve orgasm more quickly on the high points. Just as she seems to be peaking, enjoyment-wise, you can ping her with a, “Your pussy feels so good,” or, “You love my hard cock inside of you,” as you thrust into her (said in a very sexy voice, of course) and watch/listen to her peak higher.
Teasing around her anus. The anus is a very sensitive part of the body, and you can increase a girl’s excitement levels (and proximity to orgasm) by playing around near and in it. When you’re having sex with a girl from behind (doggy style), you can run your hand along her inner buttocks, just near her anus… and if you really want to drive her hard, use your thumb to start dipping into and out of her anus, and stick it in and play around a bit. The combination of your thumb in her anus and your penis thrusting into and out of her vagina will drive her wild.
Sex from behind / doggy style. Sex from behind can be a very solid option for getting orgasms, but you need the right angle for this – if she’s around your height, that’s perfect; if she’s much shorter than you, you’ll have a harder time with this one. Use beds / sofas to try and get the proper angle. Some women orgasm easily from this position, while others do not. Doggy style causes the vagina to tighten, which is good, but can also lead to chafing if you stay in the position for more than 5 to 10 minutes and are having hard, rough sex without lubrication – so have a bottle of lubricant or petroleum jelly handy just in case.
Rough sex – hair pulling, biting. A surprising number of women really enjoy rough sex – things like biting them (lightly), or grabbing a fistful of their hair (easiest when having sex from behind) and yanking it backwards, hard. Some of the roughest enjoyable sex can be choking, because cutting off the oxygen flow to the brain heightens the sensation of climaxing, but I personally won’t touch this one myself, even though I’ve had a few girls request it, because a few people die from this every year in freak accidents – there are enough other ways to heighten her enjoyment that you probably don’t need to risk giving her an aneurism. Hair pulling and biting are great though, as are slapping her buttocks or breasts during sex.
Using foreplay to heighten anticipation / enjoyment. I’m a “let’s get to it” kind of guy who doesn’t enjoy foreplay a whole lot, so I use this only sporadically, but you can really get a girl lusting for you with good foreplay. Some of the most powerful orgasms I’ve generated in women have come after extended period of foreplay – e.g., riding around in the back of a taxi making out and teasing her sexually, etc., before we finally were able to get alone and get to it. The more you build her anticipation of the act, the more explosive it is for her when you finally slip inside and go to work on her.
Switching up sensations. When I discussed the sex fundamentals above, I mentioned that one of these sex fundamentals is that you maximize skin-to-skin contact – the more of your body touching hers, the higher the enjoyment. One thing you can do for variety during the act – that heightens pleasure by way of contrast – is going from a very high contact position to a minimal contact position; for instance, switching from adapted missionary over to sex from behind, and then taking your hands off her completely so that the only part of your body she’s touching at all is your penis in her vagina (and your hips against her buttocks when you thrust forward into her). The difference in sensation is huge, and spikes her pleasure… and once she’s acclimated to that position, you can turn her on her back again and go back to adapted missionary, and again the shock of suddenly maximal skin-to-skin contact sends waves of delight through her body, too.
Taking her to the point of orgasm – but not taking her over. I was a “break taker” by necessity while getting good at sex, to stop myself from cumming too quickly or to take a break if I started feeling a little tired. Just stop thrusting and relax, penis still inside her. What I noticed, however, was that if I routinely got a girl just to the point of climaxing, then had to stop because I was about to finish before she was, then started up again once I’d calmed down a bit… then had to stop again, just shy of her orgasming… then finally brought her to orgasm after all of this build up, the orgasms she’d experience were tremendously powerful – akin to what you’d get with some pretty good foreplay. This bringing her to the point of orgasming, then not letting her orgasm, then bringing her to the point of orgasming again, then not letting her orgasm, then finally bringing her there really makes the effect much more potent.
Sex in public. You can have even mediocre sex, but if you have it in public, it can be very exciting and pleasurable for many women, because of the uncertainty, excitement, and anticipation of not knowing if they’ll be caught, if they’ll get in trouble, and who, if anyone, will see. Check out the article on sex logistics for more on where and how to make this happen.

You can use some of these, or a bunch of these (or maybe ALL of these, if you’re feeling frisky and ambitious) in concert together, or you can use them one at a time. That’s up to your discretion.

However, each of these tactics will up her enjoyment – and her perceptions of you as a talented, amazing, top-caliber lover.

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