Different things pleasure women at different times of the dating and relationship process and in this post, I’m going to explain how to please a woman:
- When you meet her for the first time.
- When you’re on a first date with her.
- When you’re having sex with her.
- When you’re in a relationship with her.
For a woman to want to have sex with a guy, she needs to feel turned on to the point where she can’t wait to get the “date” over so that she can be alone and naked with him.
To pleasure a woman on a first date, a guy needs to:
1. Build up the sexual tension between him and her to boiling point.
Sexual tension is created when a man and a woman feel a lot of sexual attraction for each other, but they avoid escalating to sex right away (e.g. because they work together, are on a date, are already in a relationship with someone else that they plan on leaving, etc).
The attraction is there, but because they aren’t releasing it with kissing and sex, it keeps building up until they are constantly thinking about having sex with each other. It’s a very pleasurable experience for both men and woman.
For a woman, being so turned on by a man that she can barely stop herself kissing him, hugging him, touching him or groping him is what gives her the most pleasure on a first date.
This doesn’t mean that the entire date needs to be sexual or that you even need to talk about sex. You simply need to create a sexual vibe between you and her and just let that tension build up.
For example: Near the end of the date, suggest going back to your place or to hers to “hang out” and then smile and say in a confident, relaxed manner, “It’s not about us having sex, but it would be nice to maybe have one kiss on the couch before you leave.”
If a woman is really attracted to you and she feels as though you’re only going to want to have one kiss on the couch before she leaves, she will feel the excitement of the sexual tension building.
In her mind, she will be thinking, “Well, maybe I do want to have sex…! I don’t know if I just want to kiss him. I guess I’ll just see what happens!” and it will be exciting for her.
She will want to make you feel turned on when you kiss on the couch and in the process of doing that, she will turn herself on and will actually want to have sex so much more.
2. Release the tension with kissing and then sex.
Although building sexual tension is important, you have to then release it with kissing and sex at some point. You can’t just keep building it up forever and expect her to keep waiting for you to make a move.
If you build up the sexual tension between yourself and a woman, you have to take things to the next level of at least kissing or she will assume that you’re either too scared to take things further or aren’t even fully interested in her.
If a guy doesn’t make a move soon enough, a woman will often release her built up sexual tension with another guy who is more confident and willing to quickly move to a kiss and then to sex.
So, don’t waste too much time building up sexual tension. Build it up and then release it with kissing and then sex.
An example of how to pleasure a woman during sex is to be present in the moment.
For example: A guy might feel so worried about trying to please a woman during sex that he gets caught up in his head thinking, “I hope she likes what I’m doing to her,” or, “She didn’t moan when I touched her there…what if she doesn’t like what I just did there?” or “What if I’m not making her feel enough pleasure? What if other guys have been better in bed than me – will she still like me after this?”
The woman then notices the subtle changes in his body language and vibe and realizes that he’s worried, thinking too much and as a result, is not present in the moment with her.
He’s in his head, rather than having the confidence to stop thinking and simply enjoy the pleasurable physical and emotional feelings, which is a huge turn off for women.
What he doesn’t realize is that one of the things that pleasure women during sex is to be in the presence of a man who isn’t worried about a thing and is simply present in his body and in the moment, enjoying the feelings and experience of having sex with her, rather than retreating into the distance of his insecure mind.
Essentially, women don’t want you to worry about a thing. Just be there, do things to her and enjoy how it all feels.
